It is the secret behind the secret. It is the secret behind getting everything we ever wanted in life. It’s something I’ve read about, it’s something I’ve tried out in the past, it’s something that creates amazing results, it’s something that helps me move forward to success faster and more easily. It’s something that I continue to practice to make my life work 100% .
It is called Completion.
I first encountered the term “Completion” when I took my Starshooters seminar in 2007. We called it the completion exercise. In essence, Completion is closing any loose ends in our lives. Loose ends include things like:
- cleaning up our work area
- paying debts
- forgiving a friend
- asking forgiveness from a friend
- letting go of old clothes
- letting go of old love letters from past relationships
The list can be quite long. (At the bottom of this article is a guide on areas of completion). All of these above items are incomplete things in our lives. And completing them is like taking a weight off our shoulders. In the Philippines, we like to say “parang nabunutan ng tinik” (like a thorn has been removed).
Being in agreement with yourself
One of the principles I learned from PSI is “Be in Agreement“. Being in agreement allows your heart to celebrate in being in integrity with people around you. Agreements allow people to live their lives in harmony with one another.
And guess what! What happens when you fail to complete things? For instance, you made a decision to pay the bills today, but failed to do it. You are not in agreement with yourself. And subconsciously, there’s this voice at the back of your head saying “Sucker! You said you’d pay the bills today but you didn’t!” That voice is a voice of the incomplete. It is a nagging voice that keeps you from achieving your goals in life.
Coach Santi said it well in our meeting last night: When you have incompletes, there is a subconscious feeling that you do not deserve to receive your goals and other blessings — because you feel like you don’t deserve it by virtue of what you have not completed.
For example, when I have unpaid debts, I feel as if I have less of integrity when I am asking my debtors to pay me.
Another example, when I am not at peace with a previous relationship, past issues with past relationships crop up in my current relationship. Just a few weeks ago, I blew my top. I lost my temper. And I hated myself for it. Because it was a reminder of how I had lost my temper in a previous relationship. I lost my temper so badly that I crashed my cellphone on the wall in sheer frustration while fighting with my ex over the phone. That happened not just once but twice!
This is some of my trash that I want to put behind me in peace. Part of my past relationships that I want to let go of so that I can enjoy my current relationship more today. ;-)
Letting go of the handbrake
In his book “The Success Principles”, Jack Canfield refers to completion as “Letting go of the handbrakes”. Imagine you drive off from your garage in the morning. You’re going along driving to work. And you feel that the car isn’t going as fast as you want. It feels so effortful to move forward. And then you realize that your handbrakes have been on since you left your garage. What will you do?
Well, you let go of the handbrakes, of course!
Letting go of the handbrakes is letting go of the past incompletes in your life. Letting go of the handbrakes means making peace with your past, maybe with yourself or maybe with other people.
Take out the trash
In my favorite book “Way of the Peaceful Warrior”, Socrates (the mentor) tells Dan (the student) to “Take out the trash”.
The trash is anything that’s keeping you from the only thing that matters: This moment. Here and now.
– Socrates, Way of the Peaceful Warrior
Take a minute to watch this short clip from the movie, Peaceful Warrior:
Completion may take different forms. Sometimes it means literally going through your things at home and cleaning up. Sometimes it could mean literally going to a person and paying a debt. It could also mean sending a text message, facebook message or email — just to tell a person that you are sorry. It doesn’t matter whether the person responds to you positively or whether the person responds to you at all. What matters is that you have released words that help you heal yourself and close the incomplete.
Here’s a list of areas of our lives which we can examine to identify incompletes.
Go ahead and take out your notebook. On a blank page on your notebook, write the header category below and start making your completion list — areas of your life that you want to complete.
- Spouse / Partner
- Boyfriend / Girlfriend, current and/or past
- Employer, current and/or past
- Employees, current and/or past
- Co-workers, current and/or past
- Other people with whom you do business
- Friends, current and/or past
Leave out no one, including the ones that you may be avoiding or from whom you have withheld communication.
- What are my assets? (Cash, time deposits, shares, real property, etc.) Why?
- What are my liabilities? (Loans, mortgage, amortization, payable, etc.) Why?
- To whom do I owe money? Why? Include a specific breakdown of outstanding loans, credit card payments, all other bills and financial obligations
- Are my monthly payments current? If not, why not?
- Are my personal income taxes current and paid, up to date? If not, why not?
- Is my checkbook balanced? If not, why not?
- What situations are not resolved at work?
- What projects are incomplete? Why?
- In what areas am I procrastinating?
- Is there any person or project I am sabotaging? Be honest. Why?
- Are my drawers, cabinets, files and closets at work neat, clean and in order? If not, why not?
- Is my car clean, neat and in good running condition? If not, why not?
- Are my tools, equipment, appliances and machines in good running condition? If not, why not?
- Are my clothes and shoes in good condition? If not, why not?
- Does my personal grooming need taking care of? If yes, why?
- Does my physical presentation present to the world the statement I want to make? If not, why not?
- Do I eat properly? If not, why not?
- Do I exercise regularly? If not, why not?
- Do I have a medical check-up regularly? If not, why not?
- Do I smoke? If yes, why?
- Do I take non-prescribed drugs or too much alcoholic drinks? If yes, why?
- Are all my personal hygiene needs met? If no, why not?
- Do I actively engage in any spiritual practices on an ongoing basis? If not, why not?
- Do my spiritual practices support my purpose in life? If not, why not?
- Are there any additional education, credentials or certifications I need to finish to accomplish my goals in life? If yes, what?
- Do I use reliable sources of reading materials to support my continued growth? If not, why not?
- Do I attend seminars or individual coaching sessions to achieve my goals? If not, why not?
List any other incompletes that have not been covered above.
I am personally going through my completion list. And each time I complete an item, I celebrate, I give thanks.
Take Action! Immediately and Decisively!
When you go through your completion list, allot time to complete as many items as early as possible. Be urgent. Be creative. Sometimes it’s just a matter of making a phone call or sending a text. Take that one step forward! You will surely love it!
As you go through your completion list, I pray for you. I assure you that you will feel lighter, stronger and more at peace with yourself.
Surely you have many areas of completion. When will you start completing?
Have you gone through your completion?
Tell us your story, share your experience through the comments area below ;-) .
May our good God Bless you today, here and now!