Have you ever felt stuck in life?
Have you ever felt there was so much more in life?
Have you everÂ reached for your dreams, but they seemÂ so far away?
Many people have big dreams for themselves. And after many years, they find themselves still doing the same thing. Youâ€™re making little or no progress towards your goals. Whatâ€™s up with that?
In the past ten years of Life Coaching, Iâ€™ve witnessed people go for their goals. And Iâ€™ve discovered patterns in goal getting. Iâ€™ve seen what works and what doesnâ€™t work.
In this article, I share with you the mistakes we make when going for our goals. Moreover, I share powerful tools that can help you overcome these mistakes and make your goals more powerful.
So you canÂ go for your goals and live life to the fullest.
Youâ€™ve got Goal Getting all wrong. Let me tell you how.
1.) Itâ€™s not your goal.
â€œBefore you climb a ladder,
make sure itâ€™s leaning on the wall
you truly want to climb.â€
In our lives, weâ€™ve learned to listen to other people. The problem is, most people donâ€™t know what you truly want in life. Our parents said you need to be a doctor, or a lawyer or a professional. Your teacher said you need to conform to the standards. Your ex- said youâ€™ll never be enough or never be worthy.
Years later, you start to wonder why youâ€™re stuck in a job you donâ€™t like. Or achieving accolades that donâ€™t matter to you.
When you look at your goals, ask yourself: â€œWhy is this important?â€
For some people, it will make your parents happy.
For others, your goal is to prove your enemy wrong.
And for others still, you are compensating for something lacking.
If youâ€™re honest enough, you might discover that your goal is NOT important to you at all.
Thatâ€™s what we call â€œFalse Choiceâ€. It wasnâ€™t your true goal after all.
People who pursue False Choice goals may eventually achieve it â€” but the achievement will be empty. Because your measure of success is based on someone elseâ€™s dream.
Hereâ€™s how to fix this. You have to find your “True Choice”. When you write your goal, ask yourself:
“Why is this goal truly important to ME?”
Keep asking yourself â€œWhy?â€.
If you need to, modify your goal so that it becomes more meaningful for you.
The more honest you are with yourself, the more meaning your goal will have, the more your goal will be your True Choice.
â€œWhat is my goal?
Why is this truly important to me?â€
2.) Your end-goal ainâ€™t clear.
â€œIf your destination ainâ€™t clear, any road will take you there!”
If you describedÂ your goalÂ to someone, will they have a picture of your goal? If not, youâ€™ll want to paint a picture of your goal more specifically. If you donâ€™t have a picture of your goal, how will you know youâ€™ve reached it?
One of the powerful tools we have for this is called SMART-V Goals. Many people have heard about SMART Goals. It stands for:
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Weâ€™ve added a V to make it SMART-V.
V stands for â€œValuesâ€
Here’s the powerful Question:
â€œBy going for your goals, what values are you developing?â€
Are you developing patience? Discipline? Being Trusting? Embracing your self-worth?
You need to be clear with your values.
This is what will keep you going for your goals despite the obstacles.
3.) Your goal doesnâ€™t challenge you
“If it doesnâ€™t challenge you, it you wonâ€™t change you.”
Hereâ€™s one measure: Does your goal scare you?
If it doesnâ€™t scare you, youâ€™re short-changing yourself.
Youâ€™re going for a goal thatâ€™s within your comfort zone.
Youâ€™ve got to dream big to attract big resources and open big doors!
We have another tool for this. Itâ€™s called BHAG. BHAG stands for â€œBig Hairy Audacious Goals!”
When a goal is BHAG, it is bigger than anything youâ€™ve ever aimed for before. Itâ€™s bigger than what your current self can do. Itâ€™s hairy and scary.
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â€œFear is a natural response to stepping towards your true self.â€
If you have some fear within, thatâ€™s a good thing! It means youâ€™re stepping towards your true self! It must be Audacious. It must make some of your friends think: â€œReally?! You have the gall to think you couldÂ achieve that?â€
When your goals are BHAG, your bodyÂ gets goosebumps justÂ by writingÂ your goal. It turns on something powerful within you, makes your heart sing! And THAT is a goal that you know will change you.
Does your goal challenge you? If it doesnâ€™t challenge you, it doesnâ€™t change you.
The true joy in you goal getting is that it changes you. You discover something new. You discover a new way of being. You discover a new way of living.
If youâ€™re going for your goals, youâ€™ve got to do something differentÂ from what you’ve done in the past. If you’ve read this far, it looks like you’re committed to making something for yourself. I hope these three tools will help you move forward to fulfilling your goals. You owe it to yourself. Do it for yourself.
Do you agree? Disagree? What works for you? Share in the comments section.
Coming up next: How to harness the power that fuels your goal.
Cheering you on!