The Lord said, “…I do not judge as people judge.
They look at the outward appearance, but I look at the heart.”
1 Samuel 16:7
I had a bad feeling about him from the very start. His name was Wynn (nice name pa naman, a winner just like me!). I was told he would be my OIC from among the catering staff who will attend to any concerns I may have. I asked to meet him many times as we were setting up the surprise birthday party for my wife, Rezza. After meeting everybody else who was serving us, I still hadn’t seen this guy called Wynn.
And then he walks in and walks *past* me. As if I was invisible! (GRRRAAAWWRRR!) He goes along with the setting up of the venue and neglects to approach me, the paying client. He doesn’t introduce himself at all as the OIC, doesn’t offer to assist me in any way.
So many thoughts were going through my mind about Wynn: “Madapa ka sana.” “Tubuan ka sana ng bulutong.” “Sana’y mamatay na ang kuko ng paa mo.”
But seriously, I wanted to call the manager of the company and tell them that Wynn wasn’t worthy to be an OIC. I wanted to ask for another OIC be assigned to us. By God’s grace, I didn’t get to do that because I was too busy to make that phone call.
Three hours later, during the actual birthday celebration, Wynn was serving us rather well. He was attending to the needs of the guests. He was prompt at addressing my requests. He had initiative to do things even before I asked.
Oh, Wynn was a winner after all! Yey!
It was from Randy Pausch, author of “The Last Lecture“, that I heard this quote:
Wait long enough and people will surprise and impress.
When you’re pissed off at someone and you’re angry at them, you just haven’t given them enough time.
Just give them a little more time and they almost always will impress you.
I thank the Lord that He gave me time to postpone taking action (making a call to the manager) toward my initial judgement of Wynn.Â
Are there people in our lives who piss us off? Maybe an officemate, an annoying relative, a friend, a classmate. Well, we’re judging as people judge = from the “outward appearance”.
How do we learn the Lord’s way and look at the heart?Â The key is to postpone judgement. The key is to believe that by allowing enough time, that same person will eventually impress us.
Lord, may we learn your way and look at the heart of people.
p.s. I’ve learned to postpone judgements and have a clearer mind and heart through some of the techniques of NLP. It has helped me have happier, healthier relationships and a generally happier life! Learn how to postpone judgements and look at the heart of people. Join me in a coaching session where you’ll have better ways of thinking and feeling about your life.