I’d like to share a lesson I learned from my training mentor, Greg Forbes. Greg shares this message in the PSI seminar.

There is nothing anybody can say or do that will make you feel bad unless you allow.

If somebody walked up to you and told you “Your hair is green”, how would you react?
Would you say:

“Oh no! I feel so bad! You’re right, my hair is green!”

Or would you say:

“That’s not true at all. It’s funny that you even thought my hair is green :-) .”

You’d probably brush it off because you know that your hair is not green. Maybe because your hair is blue :-) .

Now let’s change the words a bit.

If somebody walked up to you and told you “You are a liar”, how would you react?

Would you say:

“That’s not true at all. It’s funny that you even thought I’m a liar :-) .”

Or would you say:

“Oh no! I feel so bad! You’re right, I am a liar!”

Can you brush it off because it wasn’t true? Or are you offended? Are you offended because you are a liar?

If you’re offended by the accusation that you’re a liar, you may want to ask yourself why you are offended. Is it because there may be some truth to it? Are you offended because you doubt your own integrity? Are you offended because of what other people might think of you?

Whatever reason for getting hurt or offended by other people’s words or deeds, the hurt you feel is your own doing.

“YOUR HAIR IS GREEN! :-)”
It isn’t so because I know it isn’t so.

edWIN
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